It's a no from me

Hello Beautiful. Damn you're sexy. Why don't you respond? What is your problem? Do you not like to chat? In the words of my three year old, stop talking to me. Seriously. What is it with guys feeling the need to direct message girls on an obnoxious level. And not only that, but girls that they don't know at all. I have no problem talking to my guy friends on messenger or other social media sites but complete strangers, uh yeah about that, it's a no from me.

This past week I blogged about summer time and the disgusting amount of shame surrounding swimsuit season but you want to know what disgusted me even more? The shear amount of guys I had direct message me because OMG I posted a picture of myself with my daughter in a bikini, more so a tankini at that. What part of my blog screamed "boys direct message me?" ABSOLUTELY NONE OF IT. And here is where we get a little glimpse into what is so wrong with society.

First off, just because a girl posts a picture of herself in a bathing suit it does not give you the right to message her. It does not mean she is interested in you, wanting to speak to you or do anything further with you. A girl does not post a bikini picture or any picture for that reason for boys. Stop accusing us of seeking attention or saying "Well the picture you posted gave off that vibe." Oh you mean the one where I point blank told people to not comment on my body and then you did the exact opposite. Yup you are totally right, that's exactly what I wanted (insert major eyeroll). You follow directions worse then my three year old and I didn't even think that was possible.

Secondly, said girl does not owe you a damn thing. Not every girl is going to be swept off her feet when you slide into her DM's with the "hello beautiful" (watch out for Mr. Romeo himself). So romantic...Gag me. But do you get the hint when she doesn't reply? Ha no. Instead for some reason you think its best to send even more messages and then be extremely rude when she continues to ignore those. Stop right there. Just because you are all butt hurt that some random girl on Instagram doesn't find your messages appealing does not give you the right to insult her, place the blame on her, etc. Grow up and get over it. You must of never been told no in your life and it shows.

And last, but of course not least, I am so beyond sick of hearing that we should just take those messages as a compliment. You know we should just smile and thank them for telling us we are beautiful. Because clearly that is what determines our self worth, how many guys on social media tell us we are beautiful. That sickening statement goes hand in hand with the one that says we should enjoy when guys grab us in public or cat call us. Yeah, makes me want to throw up too. And oh while we are on that matter, to the car full of young men who thought I would enjoy you all cat calling me as you passed by me walking today, f*** off. But let me guess, I was asking for it by wearing soccer shorts and a workout tank. Do you see what is wrong with society yet?

To all the guys who send girls messages, cat call them, hit on them, etc we don't want it. I sure as hell do not need a man to tell me I am beautiful for it to be true and I do not owe you a thank you. My mom raised me to depend on no one, to stand strong on my own two feet and to always believe in myself and you best damn believe I am raising my daughter the same way. My body is not an object that you can own, place labels on or classify. So the next time I post a picture of myself to raise a point, tell a story or just for the fun of it, stay out of my DM's. Your words don't flatter me. I don't need no silly Instagram boys who hide behind computer screens. So let me say this one more time for the people in the back, it's a NO from me.

~ My darling girl you are BEAUTIFUL, INTELLIGENT, FEARLESS and POWERFUL. Do not ever let any silly boy make you believe otherwise.~