Be a lady

Lexi
Jun 18, 2020
3 min read

Be a lady they said.

Stand straight, suck your stomach in and smile.

Wear makeup but not too much, you don't want to look desperate.

Dress nice but not too short of a skirt or you are just asking for it.

Be easy on the eyes and lay off the food.

Bounce back after baby.

Be a lady they said.

Be a lady they said. When it comes to guys you should just take it. You know the cat calls, degrading remarks and ridiculous demands, all of that, just take it. Those shroud remarks mean they like you and you should just smile. Take it as a compliment when random men fill your DM's asking for pictures and calling you things. I mean after all, the President of the United States has told men to "grab them by the pussy". Be a lady they said.

Be a lady they said. If a boy hits you, pulls your hair or chokes you, he must really love you. Let it keep happening. Let him use you as his personal punching bag. Those bruises are nothing but signs of his love, be proud of it. And while you are at it, smile. Be a lady they said.

Be a lady they said. To be truly beautiful you must remain a size 0 at all times. The bathroom will be become your best friend after meals. Watch your calories, skip dessert and go easy on the drinks. Its almost summer season and you must look prestige. And don't even think about using having a baby as an excuse, you must immediately get back into shape. Who cares if it took 9 months to make, it best take 9 days to take off. Be a lady they said.

Be a lady they said. Shut your mouth, keep your legs closed and don't dress like a slut. Guys have no self control and you must do all the work for them. Hasn't anyone told you honey if a guy rapes you, he will only get a slap on the wrist in the white privileged America. His career is far more important then your self worth. Besides, we all know you must of made the whole thing up, you have a reputation for wearing that dress and must of provoked him. Maybe next time don't drink so much and walk down an alley alone. Be a lady they said.

Be a lady they said. And to that I said fuck off. I am done being told to be a lady. I will be whoever I so damn choose to be. My body is my body. I can wear what I want for me and only me. I will eat whatever I want, don't accuse me of having eating disorders because of my size or ask who I am trying to impress with working out. Don't tell me that my dress or drinking is asking for it, I can have a good time and shouldn't have to worry about my safety. Mom bod, no makeup, hot mess and all I will be whoever the hell I want to be. Be a lady they told me, but really, we need to lower the standards for women everywhere I said.

Be a lady they said. I looked straight into my daughter's eyes and told her to raise hell. I told her be your own superhero. Be proud of who you are and what God gave you. Don't you dare ever change for anybody. Love yourself first and foremost always. Ignore the world around you and don't let the remarks get you down. Be a lady they said.

Be a lady they said. How about raise a strong, independent future world leader instead? How about we teach our daughters to worry less about fitting into glass slippers and more about shattering glass ceilings? How about we change the stereotypes of men and women? Lets be more respectful of others instead of worrying about being a lady.

Be a lady they said.

Be courteous.

Be kind.

Be brave, bold and strong.

Be too much for people.

Be whoever you want to be.

Believe in yourself.

Speak your mind, chase your dreams and hold your head high.

Be intelligent and independent.

Be stubborn, strong willed and a force to be reckoned with.

Never give up.

Be a lady they said